The Poor Bra Strap

Written By

Vinisha Gupta

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“Excuse me!” I heard a voice addressing me from behind and I stopped. A middle aged woman was whispering to me, “Your BRA STRAP!” I slipped it back in, smiled and thanked her (Not that I really wanted to) and just started walking again. Don’t call me rude here, it’s just that I fail to understand what’s so embarrassing about the visible ‘BRA STRAP’ <stage whisper>. Isn’t it just a strip of cloth, sometimes fancy, sometimes lacy, transparent, ribbon-tied, or studded?

I love my bra straps, really — I employ a good part of my grey cells while buying them so they match my clothes. What’s so humiliating about them being visible?

The other day, at the grocery store, it went like this: “Uncle, whole wheat bread, Nutralite butter (I’m trying to lose some extra kilos, you see) and six eggs” (yolks for my husband and whites for me). As I rattled off this list, the uncle was busy staring at me and I began to feel a little uneasy. I asked him, “What happened uncle, are you alright?” He immediately came back to his senses and said, “Yes, what all do you want?” “Uff!!” I thought. As I repeated the grocery list to him, I tried to figure out what he had been looking at. There! I found it, yes it was my Bra Strap. I wanted to laugh and ask him, ‘doesn’t your wife wear one?’ But I decided to let it go. What is it with the little strip of cloth, what’s really the big deal about it?

At times, you feel assaulted by the eyes of people if the bra’s noticeable. I feel torn between whether to laugh it off or punch them in the face, and often choose to ignore it and just move on.

Unless someone is modelling for a lingerie company, one is neither showing the bra nor the bra strap intentionally. And even if it is visible, why those looks, why that murmuring? What’s so vulgar about it? It’s a strap and not the breast itself. Recently, I saw a woman feeding her baby in a hospital. The moment the feeding was done, she picked up the diaper bag and started helping the baby to burp. A nurse standing next to her was trying to say something in signals to her, which I attempted to interpret (sorry, I know the signing wasn’t for me, but curiosity got the better of me). It was the mother’s Bra Strap. God, I thought, leave the mother alone, you woman! You’re a nurse, who probably sees patients naked very often, how can you be so bothered about a bra strap that has slipped out in the hurry and hassle of feeding and burping a crying baby? I mean, come on, this is a hospital, where highly educated and trained people deal with life and death on an hourly basis. Yet they have the time to think about the Bra Strap showing?

But what to do, that’s just the mentality, the poor conservative thought process of so many people around us, it doesn’t matter what one’s profession is, it’s the way we think. Does no one pause to wonder whether an innocent strip of cloth warrants these kind of stares and repellant looks? Is it really required?

It’s time for some Bra Strap transformation. Oops! I meant mindset alteration.

In the meantime, I wish all you lovely ladies a stress-free, happy time shopping for your beautiful Bra straps. <Say it loud and proud!>




Vinisha, 30 aspires to leave a mark on this world (of course, a positive one) before turning into ashes. She is an avid reader and a blogger. Her husband is her biggest motivation who always encourages her to keep smiling .Writing is a form of meditation to her and she loves to write a lot about women in form of short stories, poetry or just a small write up. Her love for penguins has grown over the past few years which has added a new dream in her wish list to see the penguins live one day.

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