Pink is not the definition of a girl

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Vinisha Gupta

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“It’s a girl!”, the Doctor announced with pride. In a few weeks’ time from her birth, not just our room, but even the living room was filled with gifts! We could see the widespread sparkling pink, literary all over the house. Barring a few visitors, almost everyone carried pink bags with pink gifts in them. From a stroller to a baby carrier, from frocks to bed sheets, everything was so pink. I almost started to develop some sort of a pink sickness! Haha. I am quite certain, parents of a girl child can definitely relate to what I am trying to say here. With no second thoughts, I agree that girls look pretty in pink. However, they look beautiful in blue, cute in yellow and sweet in orange too. Since I couldn’t do much about the gifts that poured in, I started accepting the gesture in pink with a smile on my face.

Time flew by and her first birthday was a week away. I went to order the birthday cake. The baker handed me a catalogue with various options that I could choose from, depending on the weight of the cake. I chose a cake with the design of a Ferrari. He asked me the name to be written on the cake. I said, “Dhara”. He looked at me and said, “You should have chosen a princess or a castle design for a girl!!”. I just ignored his discriminating comment and asked him for the total amount to be paid. I really wanted to tell him that my girl loves cars! But then, I thought his recommendation was probably based on his experience with other customers.

Years have passed by. She has turned into a cute little eight-year-old last week. Every now and then she tells me, “Mummy I am a big girl now!”. To celebrate her birthday, we invited over her friends, class fellows and some of our friends too. The kids thoroughly enjoyed the funnily named snacks, the fruit cake and the games we had organised for them. Dhara’s evening went really busy as she was engrossed in unwrapping the gifts. Not to our surprise, seventy percent of the gifts were either dolls, doll houses or kitchen sets. No hard feelings for anyone who gifted them, as I personally feel any gift for that matter, is a sweet gesture filled with love. But here, my agony was something else. I thought, is it just me who thinks like this or do we also have others thinking on these lines? Why do we associate girls with playing with dolls or kitchen sets? Why don’t we think that they can also love cars with a remote control, or a super-hero game? Isn’t this thought process the creator of all discrimination that we all have to face while growing up? I buy an equal amount of cars and dolls for my daughter just to ensure she doesn’t think that cars are meant only for boys and only dolls for her. On one hand, I do want her to learn cooking, but on the other, I also want her to learn to play with the Xbox. I want her to get trained in martial arts along with partying with her friends and wearing her favourite LBD. These days we read a lot about gender equality, but has that thought been embedded where necessary. It all starts with the child’s upbringing. It should start from the day the child is born, regardless of a rural or an urban household. The vision of an equal society cannot come into reality by just hitting the ‘like’ button for gender-based slogans on social media sites, or by attending symposiums on gender equality. Let’s start considering a Rubik’s cube too as a gift for a girl (of course depending on her age). It all starts from such small things. If we all would wipe out the thought that there is a difference between a boy or a girl’s capabilities, there surely wouldn’t be any. I assume carrying babies is the only thing so far that only the female gender can do. But with rapid progress in technology, this too might change soon. (Wink Wink).

Let’s just let pink and blue be colours and stop letting them define genders.




Vinisha, 30 aspires to leave a mark on this world (of course, a positive one) before turning into ashes. She is an avid reader and a blogger. Her husband is her biggest motivation who always encourages her to keep smiling .Writing is a form of meditation to her and she loves to write a lot about women in form of short stories, poetry or just a small write up. Her love for penguins has grown over the past few years which has added a new dream in her wish list to see the penguins live one day.

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