Do you believe in gender equality?

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Teja Dalvi

Do you believe in gender equality? Loading

‘I’m a girl’ ‘I’m a boy’. A five sentence essay back in school always started with this line. Only until a particular time, after which we realized that it’s as complex as simple it sounds. The tussles of gender equality or inequality have followed since then.

Gender biased approach starts with a miraculous blessing, the birth of the child. A boy is welcomed with tears of joy whereas a girl floods parents with stress, thinking about her entire life and her ‘maintenance’ in a flash. Next, toys and clothes.  Boys get to choose cars, bat-ball, guns etc. in toys and wear T-shirts and shorts . A baby girl has to settle down for either Barbie doll set or a giant teddy and she grooms up in a typical frilled frock. It continues to patterns of uniform, behavior and more.

In schools and colleges, eve teasing is considered very normal. How about Adam teasing? It’s very weird to see or even imagine a gang of girls commenting on random  guys on the roads. Ragging or bullying, although banned by law and order in India, I wonder when it will be implemented beyond the campus.

In a jam packed bus or train, even a park sometimes, a guy flaunts his low waist bottoms displaying his Jockeys and that’s cool. Cut to a female trying to make way in the crowd, inadvertently drops her dupatta, the bra strap peeks out of her kurta or a girl wearing crop top showing her belly is actually ‘hot’ enough to disgustingly excite the men.

Ironically, the unity of males is appreciable than that of females because when it comes to being a fist and punching male chauvinism, a female becomes other female’s enemy. A mother teaches her daughter on how to talk, how to walk, how to giggle and not laugh out loud. In rural parts of India, marital rapes, murders or suicides due to dowry holds the mother-in-law responsible. Female infanticide, though controlled, is still prevalent in some places in India leading to number of infertility cases. Male impotency is also prodigiously a female’s gaffe.

Human trafficking, still rampant nationwide and globally, includes girl population predominantly. The sex ratio, perhaps, justifies the demand of girls for such immoral activities. Sadly, girls are looked down from being humans to business commodities.

Menstrual cycle is another taboo in India. It prevents ladies from entering temples and religious gatherings for a certain period. They aren’t allowed to touch the entire household, while the men can wash off their sins immediately after performing all ‘manly’ acts

Although, there are women leaders out there, I have never noticed any female in the technical panel in corporate sectors for selection process. They are restricted to the Human Resources to handle the candidate emotionally yet practically.

However, it’s time to understand the injustices met out to men by the society for upholding the same ideals. Primarily, men are pressurized not just for a job, but high earnings and undertake the responsibilities of the household unlike women.

Women get a paid child care leave besides the maternity break, while men settle only on paternity leaves and get berated for not sharing the load of parenting.

A girl can weep openly but a guy needs a four walled cubicle to shed tears.

Nonetheless, eradicating gender stereotyping, today’s generation has a nuanced outlook and acceptance to the then repudiated community, The Transgenders. The youth is delivering constant optimism and mature approach to bring up this sector.

Some of the progressive measures taken towards unbiased gender equalization include-

  • Mother’s name is mentioned as second name and on marks and degree certificates.
  • There is a clear provision for the transgenders to respectfully be included as ‘others.
  • Social media is conducting drives to end gender stereotyping.
  • Youth like Mr. Rahul Kumar marrying the acid attacked victim Lalita Behbansi is an example for the generations to choose their partners without any prejudice.
  • Ladies tour packages and night outs are organized for them to see the world just like the men.
  • Unisex facilities like salons and clothing are introduced.
  • The clichĂ© of girls not being admitted in civil or mechanical streams or boys not to be allowed to pursue classical dance education is abolished.
  • Housewives get equal acceptance as consultants working from home and earn their own identity.

Behind every successful man, there is a woman.

Behind every successful, happy and independent woman, there is a man.

Behind a systematically structured society, there is an equilibrium of efforts by men, women and others.




Teja Dalvi is a Goan by heart and a working professional in Bangalore. She is also an aspiring writer and an obsessive reader like how one breathes in oxygen. Married for a year now, she is an independent individual yet depends on her family for the love she seeks. In a city of Information Technology, she is one of those who do not belong to the “Engineering” quota. Her qualification makes her a Clinical Researcher and Microbiologist. But deep in her heart she is that little girl who spreads her color pencils and crayons all over the floor and let’s her imagination just flow and finally settle on a canvas. She believes to preserve the child inside her mind and feeds it often with board games and cartoons. She claims that her inclination towards Arts and reading books is what keeps her going through tough times and emerge even stronger.

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